Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Remember the question from last week? If not, read here. Here is a follow up question....
I asked ex wife to send my son to me in portland oregon so that i can look after him but she said she would rather have the money (child support) put him on pills and home school him. going to try to convince her not to any suggestions?
Yikes! Okay, I am not a lawyer, but I do share a child with an ex-husband. Even though she has primary physical custody, I assume that you share joint legal custody. Normally, this would entail that any medical decisions require the approval of both parents. If you are not sure, look over your custody agreement and/or consult a lawyer.
How far away do they live? This is important stuff here. I would do some research on the subject, arm yourself with information and approach her with a level-headed plea. As I said, I am happy to point you in the right direction with a well-known pediatrician, here in Los Angeles, who may be able to provide you and your ex-wife with alternative options. I really really hope this works itself out. Keep me posted.
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Miss A. Hrenciuc tagged me to answer some questions. So here goes!
A vampire or a wizard (and why)?
Being a vampire sounds awful. Basically, you're a junkie, with no end in sight, and you have to harm and/or kill to get your fix. So, no vampire for me. On the flip side, I would love to be a wizard. I would wiz up all sorts of awesomeness. Maybe I already am a wizard?????
If you could change one thing about you, what would it be- if anything?
Hmmm, I am very critical of my appearance, but rather than change anything there, I would be less critical of myself. It causes anxiety and is counter-productive. All that being said, I am a work in progress and would like to think that I have slowly gotten better at letting go of perfectionist syndrome.
Would you rather live like a rock star or like a president?
President is wayyyy to stressful....rock star for sure.
What's your favorite cartoon character?
Hmmmm, it's a toss up between Michigan J. Frog and Dr. Katz, Professional Therapist.
What's your (most) guilty pleasure?
Trash television for sure. Specifically re-runs of the original Bev Hills, 90210.
If you were a song, what would it be?
These Days by Nico.
What's your biggest dream?
To continually feel inspired.
Do you prefer to be the one who asks questions or the one who answers them, and why?
Although I do enjoy answering Ask Erin! questions, I think I prefer asking questions, because I am nosy.
What is your biggest turn off and turn on?
My biggest turn on is intelligence. Smarts win! My biggest turn off is stinginess, specifically shitty tippers. HUGE turn off. I don't care about how much money someone has at all, but stinginess is so unattractive.
Have you ever broken any laws?
Duh. I was a junkie. That being said, I am super squeaky clean when it comes to the law. I have never shoplifted, I don't j-walk. But, obvs I bought and used illegal drugs, so there you have it.
And I am tagging the following to answer these questions: Brendan, Jugsy, Hallie, Lisa, and Brooke. Thanks bitches!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I have been majorly slacking on the blog front. Sue me. I've been writing and just plain busy! Tomorrow, I will resume regular post-age. In the meantime, enjoy these Masahisa Fukase photos from his Solitude of Ravens. If you really truly love me, it wouldn't kill you to buy me a copy, now would it?
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
I am so far behind on Ask Erin! questions. My apologies.....
Ex-wife wants to put 10 year old on meds. admittedly he is a hyper handful has gotten in trouble at school but i see those as things that boys do. i was hyper my brother was super hyper and we are no more messed up than the next guy. what is your view?
Alright. Don't put your kid on meds, at least not yet. There is far too much over-diagnosing going on in this country.
Young boys are usually hyper by nature. He needs to channel that energy somewhere...sports, karate, breakdancing- some sort of physical activity. Secondly, what is he eating? I am a big believer in the power of diet, particularly with kids. Maybe he is eating too much sugar, maybe he has a food allergy. I feel like there are many many avenues for you to explore before jumping to the pill solution.
I know how hard it can be to handle a rambunctious boy, but that's your job- to parent him, to figure out solutions. Don't jump on the ADD/ADHD bandwagon. Did previous generations have this deluge of diagnoses? No. How long have you been divorced? Maybe he is just trying to get your attention.
Please, for your boy, you really need to investigate and come up with some solutions. I am 99.9% sure that he does not to be put on amphetamines (which is essentially what most ADD/ADHD drugs are). Please let me know how it all turns out. I have a fantastic pediatrician who can also make recommendations on behavioral therapies in lieu of medication. If you would like that information, email me.
More Ask Erin! posts to come this week. Ask me some questions, inspire me to answer them! Use the formspring box on your right or email me.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Monday, May 10, 2010
(not really though) Did you ever do a time capsule in school, and bury it somewhere? Have you ever found a time capsule? I would very much like to find one. I would also like to know what you put in yours.